Question 1

Do I need to know how to fight?

Accepted Answer

No, and it helps if you don't. Most men who walk in have never thrown a punch. The boxing isn't the point, the pressure is. Gloves on gives your nervous system something real to respond to, so you can watch what you do under it in real time. Nobody gets hurt and nobody has anything to prove.

Question 2

What if I freeze?

Accepted Answer

Then we have found the thing. Freezing is information, not failure. Most of the useful work in that room happens in the moment a man notices he has gone somewhere else and comes back.

Question 3

What's the difference between Contact Room, Contact Online and Contact Therapy?

Accepted Answer

All three sit inside The Contact Method. Contact Room is the group workshop in Bali, gloves on, in a room with other men. Contact Therapy is the same work in Bali, one to one, four sessions over four weeks. Contact Online is one to one over video, wherever you are, breathwork, somatic tracking and parts work, without the physical confrontation piece. Same mechanism, different room.

Question 4

Do I need experience with this kind of work?

Accepted Answer

No. Some men arrive at a breaking point with no language for any of it. Others are three years into their own practice and want to go further. Both are welcome and neither gets talked down to.

Question 5

Is this therapy?

Accepted Answer

No. This is coaching and facilitation, trauma informed, working bottom up through the body. It sits alongside therapy well and it doesn't replace clinical care. If you're in crisis, get clinical support first and we can work together after.

Question 6

Where does the work happen?

Accepted Answer

Ubud, Bali for the Contact Room, group or one to one, and men's circles. Rites of Passage runs in Bali in May and Europe in September. The European location moves each year, Portugal this year and Poland next. Contact Online runs wherever you are.

Question 7

How much does it cost?

Accepted Answer

Pricing is set per container and I'll give you the real number on the call, not before. Worth naming though: most men who tell me they can't afford this will spend three or four hundred dollars in a night without blinking. I was one of them.

The Pressure Test